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This is the end

Hi All, I hope you have all been well, and that these troubled times of COVID are getting better in your respective countries. Thankfully with the vaccines out things will eventually get better and somewhat back to normal. I hope everyone is staying strong during these times too, as they are tough and have really tested humanity to almost breaking point. I realise it has been a long time since my last post. I mentioned a few posts ago that I have run out of things to say about my journey. I have a wonderful partner, a lovely home with him and a nice balance with my family who I can keep my secret life a secret from. So things are going well. This is something the 'me' of a few years ago would have never imagined. I remember a time when I was doubtful I would ever be this happy and in a long term relationship. But I persevered and am better for it now. Even during a pandemic and lockdown(s) I have remained happy, and thankful that I could still work.  I guess one of the reasons
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I could be your private island

 Hi all, It's been a while since I last wrote a post, and to be honest not much has gone on in my world. Except for a pandemic, starting a new job and celebrating one year in the flat. So yeah, not much but also a lot! This year has been crazy, and it doesn't look like it will get any less crazy anytime soon. The pandemic is still rife, and affecting everyone and everything. I truly hope you are all keeping well and trying to maintain social distance with face coverings and hand gels galore. It has affected all walks of life, has made us adapt to a 'new normal' and has forced us to re-think our daily lives in general. One aspect that has affected everyone is travel. Be it local travel on public services, or the all elusive holiday abroad, we have all been affected. Bae has not been able to see his parents since the beginning, and every little sliver of a chance he gets to go back, the rules inevitably change and it becomes harder. I for one am tired of not having a holi


Hi all, Hope everyone is keeping safe from the pandemic and that the pressures are starting to ease off a little in terms of lockdown. It has definitely been a strange year, and it will continue to be for a little while longer. I honestly feel we should write off 2020 and forget it ever happened. Despite all the tragedies and despair there have been nice things to come from it. People are being friendlier towards each other and helping neighbours. They are innovating in times of need and helping out in any way that they can. It will be tough to move forward, and the effects of the lockdown will last for a generation, but we will endure. My post is about a little gem that I found on Disney+ called Out. It's a short animation about a closeted gay man who is struggling to tell his parents about his boyfriend, and the reason he is moving because of it. This is a first for Disney, as they have never really showed an out and proud gay character in anything before. They have alluded

I survive, I lock down

Hi all, Hope you are keeping safe in these troubling times. COVID-19 is basically taking over the world, and thankfully countries are now making people stay indoors to stop the spread. For those that don't know, viruses can spread really quickly in dense populations, where people are in constant contact with one another. Isolation will stop this as you cannot pass it on if you don't have anyone near you to pass it to. It's simple, yet it took too long for people to realise this and that is why we still see the number rising for now.  People are taking isolation in different ways though. Some are taking it as an opportunity to dye their hair, create alt accounts on twitter (the timelines are full of them), re-arrange their houses, post thirst traps (again all over the timelines) and complain about self-isolation. But all these will pass, and hopefully so with the pandemic. There is also the ugly side of this pandemic. Those that hoarded and stopped essential workers

I’m speechless

Hi all, It’s been an interesting few weeks. There has been an atmospheric change at work and it seems a lot better now, we have had paranoia about the corona virus on daily news, and the weather has been blowing us left, right and centre. For me, there has been a few changes of mind about whether or not I want to keep working in retail, and an incident today where a customer threw a box of tablets at me really does make think it’s time to move on. But it’s not all been so gloomy. I met Lady a week ago and we talked about everything from the important to little things that have happened to us. It was refreshing, and long overdue. Things with bae have been amazing, and continue to go strong. So I do have a lot to be thankful for. I have been thinking however that this blog may be past it’s expiration date. When I started this blog I did so to show the other side of being Muslim and gay. When I was struggling with who I was and how I was going to get through it, I tried to find other

Problem, problem, problem, the problem is you

Hi all, It's been a weird month for me. January has that never ending feeling, and seems to last for years instead of just 31 days. There is belief that its the hardest month to get through, we get paid earlier in December so it feels like budgeting takes over by the time January rolls around, people have the post holiday blues wishing for the next bank holiday and realising it's in April, which makes them more sad, and people tend to get ill and whiny. Emphasis on the WHINY. This year it's even worse this year with the outbreak of coronavirus. If I never have to explain one more time to a customer that we don't sell face masks it will only be too soon. However, along with people becoming more whiny, I also feel that I have lost my patience for them. People come up with the most minute of problems and make it seem like their worlds are ending. Especially in London, which is full of people with 'my life is more important' syndrome and 'can I speak to you

Santa Baby

Hi all, I hope everyone is ready for the holidays. It’s a lovely time of year. People are generally a bit happier, things tend to be busy but then slow down, and London is full of festive cheer. It’s also near my birthday, which is always fun for me. This year I got to spend it with bae. My first birthday spent as a proper couple, and it was glorious. We had an easy day, and. Got my wish of not wanting to make any decisions so was extra happy. It was nice waking up in the flat and realising what I have achieved this year. New job, new home and a more serious relationship with bae. Truly everything I could ever ask for. But something in me wants more. This time of year is all about family, and whilst I am on my way home now to spend time with them, and bae is at his family spending time with them, I yearn for us to be together and spend it as one. It would be amazing to have everyone enjoying the festivities and my family getting to meet bae. Sadly I know this would never happen, a