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I got 99 problems but...

STD's aint one! Hi all, For anyone who is sexually active I cannot stress the importance of getting tested regularly. You never know what someone has lurking in their nether regions and could potentially pass on to you. Whether you're a one night stand kind of person, or in a committed long term relationship, get yourselves tested every three months to make sure your healthy. I decided it was time for my first test. I had been sexually active for about a year, had been with around 6 guys and decided it was time. Also I was going to have a special holiday week with a guy and wanted to make sure I was clean (and so was he). Being in London there are a lot of clinics you can go to for tests. I decided I didn't want to just 'drop in' to a clinic and have to wait forever to see someone, so I decided to go to  a clinic at a hospital that allowed you to make appointments. They ran a special gay mens clinic one night a week which sounded perfect. I booked an appointm

When you come around it reads 'no entry'

Hi all, Types. There are many types that people go for. Some like daddies, others like twinks and some like being in sub/dom relationships etc. We all have a type that we like. For me its the bear-y, daddyish, normal type (not to be confused with the normal type in Pokemon). I like guys with body hair, its sexy to me. You may disagree but thats ok, its my type and not necessarily yours. Sometimes though my type can betray me. Someone could fit the bill on paper, but in reality they don't meet expectation. One of those times happened a few days ago. I was on Grindr (the holy grail of desperation) and some guy messaged me. He didn't have a profile pic (I usually don't respond but something made me reply). He actually bothered to fill out the stats screen (which annoys me when people don't even put down basic details) but omitted his age. Anyway after a few messages back and forth he asks me out for dinner. This was surprising as asking someone out for a date doesn

Hold back the river

Hi all, I wanted to share with you a relatively funny story about my first douching experience (sorry for the faint hearted - if this applies to you look away now). With my new beginnings into the gay sex world I was keen to experience everything I could. Boys gone wild sort of situation lol. So I really wanted to try bottoming. But I realised this would involve a lot of preparation - you can't just wipe and be ready. I decided to do some research. I found several blogs and sites that talked through the art of douching. I was aware of douching as I have a medical related background, but had not realised the intricacies of it until I read these articles. It seemed very technical but I was determined to get through it and have a squeaky clean hole afterwards. I bought an enema bulb and decided to try it out on a day I would be home ALONE! This was not an experience I wanted to share with the family. So anyway I found myself alone and decided to get to work. Initially it was di

Lets get it on in public

Hi all, Recently on the local news there was an incident regarding a gay couple who were informed by security in a grocery store that their hand holding had caused offence to another shopper. Sadly this sort of thing is still happening in 2016! Even more sad that its incidents like this that force gay people to be reclusive with one another in public displays of affection. Personally I don't like public displays of affection, be it homo or heterosexual. I find that affection is something that should be done privately. That being said I consider public displays of affection to be passionate french kissing and beyond. Hand holding, arm linking and hugs are not public displays of affection in my mind. They so that you care for the other person, and want to feel close with them. I don't feel acts like this should be thought of as offensive. I wouldn't mind if a hetero couple were doing any of these, so people shouldn't be offended by a gay couple doing them either. O

So come on let it go, just let it be

Hi all, So as some of you may know from my previous posts I am not fully out. I have told a select few people. But to others I just don't bring up the subject of my sexuality or discuss it to any great length. It's not that I am ashamed, it's just that I am a private person and have never really discussed my personal life (unless I need to vent - and even then I am selective about the information I give out). To say I have been burned in the past would be correct. I gave secretive information to a certain someone and they leaked it to everyone I knew at the time. So that has made me cautious. That isn't to say I don't know who I can trust. But there is one person in particular who I know I cannot trust. Lets call her GG (Gossip Girl). GG is the type of person who wants to know everyones business, but will never share anything personal about her. The information you get is very superficial and typically about her many 'friends' (she instantly thinks that

It's going down, I'm yelling...

Tinder! Hi all, Being a busy person like I am it is often really hard to meet people. I mean I have my commute to and from the office, and as much as I want to be the subject of a rush hour crush, it's not happening. Well at least not to me anyway. I don't go out a lot (due to restrictions with living with parents) so meeting people when out and about is going to take a long time. So the next best (begrudgingly) thing is using the apps. Now as gay people we have a lot of apps to choose from. You have the famous ones like Grindr (search Grindr fails on Google to see why this is getting to be a sleazy app) and the not so famous ones like Lavendr. I can honestly say I have not tried them all (thankfully). I have tried niche ones like Growlr (fitting as I am hairy) and found them to be initially better, but the sleaze shines through thick and fast. Then something amazing happened. The uprise of Tinder. It was quickly becoming THE app to have for dating. The popularity in my