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Hi all,

Being a busy person like I am it is often really hard to meet people. I mean I have my commute to and from the office, and as much as I want to be the subject of a rush hour crush, it's not happening. Well at least not to me anyway. I don't go out a lot (due to restrictions with living with parents) so meeting people when out and about is going to take a long time. So the next best (begrudgingly) thing is using the apps. Now as gay people we have a lot of apps to choose from. You have the famous ones like Grindr (search Grindr fails on Google to see why this is getting to be a sleazy app) and the not so famous ones like Lavendr. I can honestly say I have not tried them all (thankfully). I have tried niche ones like Growlr (fitting as I am hairy) and found them to be initially better, but the sleaze shines through thick and fast.

Then something amazing happened. The uprise of Tinder. It was quickly becoming THE app to have for dating. The popularity in my opinion stemmed from the fact it was also for heteros to use. It didn't have the taboo associated with Grindr, and you could easily bring it up in conversation without being judged. So I decided to give it a try. After navigating the settings to search only for guys (sorry ladies you just don't do it for me) I started to get used to the swiping motion needed to like and 'not like' people. In fact its really addictive, almost like a game (which is weird as when you do match with someone it gives you the option to keep swiping like it is a game).

After finding out that most of the people I initially saw were the same as the people I was seeing on Grindr and the other apps I changed the radius. Thats when the 'fun' started. I was seeing a lot of potential date candidates. This is the reason I was using it - to find dates. What I found was that a lot of the people on there were looking for the same. It didn't have the sleaze factor that Grindr did and that really appealed to me. I want to have a relationship (would be my first) and experience being in love rather than a quick shag with the aftertaste of regret. I matched with a few people. Success! After talking a bit you find the same thing you have to keep the conversation interesting in order to have one, otherwise people get bored and leave (never to be heard from again).

Whilst I have been using the app for quite some time now, I have only had a handful of dates. I need to stop working weekends is the main reason for not having more. But until my schedule changes I will more than happily stick to my swiping addiction (I don't need an intervention... yet...).

If you haven't tried it, or are as sick as me of the sleazy apps out there, I say give it a go. You might find Mr. Right (Fingers crossed I will soon).



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