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Hi all,

Types. There are many types that people go for. Some like daddies, others like twinks and some like being in sub/dom relationships etc. We all have a type that we like. For me its the bear-y, daddyish, normal type (not to be confused with the normal type in Pokemon). I like guys with body hair, its sexy to me. You may disagree but thats ok, its my type and not necessarily yours. Sometimes though my type can betray me. Someone could fit the bill on paper, but in reality they don't meet expectation.

One of those times happened a few days ago. I was on Grindr (the holy grail of desperation) and some guy messaged me. He didn't have a profile pic (I usually don't respond but something made me reply). He actually bothered to fill out the stats screen (which annoys me when people don't even put down basic details) but omitted his age. Anyway after a few messages back and forth he asks me out for dinner. This was surprising as asking someone out for a date doesn't happen right away. I casually replied that I don't meet people until I see them. Also I had a long day at work and really couldn't be bothered to leave the house again.

Thats when he sent a picture. Now I'm not ageist in the slightest, if you are young at heart we can get on well. His age wasn't the thing that bothered me about the picture. It was the fact that he looked like he could have been my dad. Not in an age way, in skin tone, looks and race way. This instantly turned me off. I replied saying that he looks good, but that he reminded me of my actual dad, and this did not appeal to me. He seemed to take this well. But then messaged me to say that he has been with people better looking than me and often finds that Indian guys are married and covering up their sexuality etc. Before I could even reply to these messages he blocked me.

Now I'm not bothered by the block, he wasn't someone I was going to meet. I'm bothered by the fact that I was really nice in letting him down, but he took offence and then attacked my character. He called me ugly, or at least mentioned that he has been with better looking people. Is that supposed to make me jealous? Good for you, I don't really care. Secondly he thought that all Indian people are the same (I'm not even Indian - so that was poor judgement). This all painted a picture of a person who is desperate and has no morals. I am glad it never went further.

But people take note, I will always be honest and try to wish people luck in finding someone better suited for them. I expect the same level of respect and courtesy in return. If you are going to be rude then I will lose interest and block you before you block me.

Ain't nobody got time for that!



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