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Hey All,

Recently I have been getting back into the swing of working full time (albeit irregular hours and days, but definitely more than when I was a student). The nature of my work has me contracting in different places, and this is fun as I get to travel and work with new teams constantly. The downside is waking up at 6am to get ready for a day, and always having to check my calendar (double check and triple check) where I am for the day. So far it has gone well, with a few glitches here and there due to missed bookings and admin. I have realised how much I have missed work (and the money). However, when working a lot I tend to forget about other aspects of my life as I focus a lot on my job. This is something I have always done, as I was taught to work hard and achieve my dreams. My dreams of doing a PhD have already been realised, and now my dream is to find a full-time job, house and love. Basically become an adult and actually have some normality and regularity in my life.

The job hunt is still on (it's hard out there). A lot of companies want experience - 'how can I have that if you don't hire me?' Or companies are looking for specific talents and abilities that I do not currently have. But I have a plan (I seem to make a lot of those). I have found courses to improve my skill set and will be doing them in the summer. It's all about employability these days, and with my career so far I can afford the opportunity of choosing my own hours, so fitting in some courses will be easy. In the meantime I am trying new ventures with my original career in healthcare and medicine, so that may lead on to something else. I'm going with the flow and saying yes to new opportunities.

Finding a house. Well that will be harder. I want to move out, have my independence and live my big gay colourful life to its fullest. Trouble is moving out will cost money, either as a mortgage (this is London so that is unlikely) or as rent (this is London so that will be high! We're talking Burj Khalifa here). So I am looking at places that I can afford on my very basic salary of weekends if I can't find bookings during the week (But fingers crossed my pattern so far will continue). But I want to give up weekends soon as well (I really don't like working Saturdays anymore). Plus my deadline of September is fast approaching and I need to get a move on.

Love. What is love? (Baby don't hurt me....). Love seems to be eluding me at the moment, however I am optimistic. I have a date in the very near future with a guy who I really get on with. We just haven't met yet. Don't worry this isn't a catfish situation (at least I hope it's not), so things will be fine. He may be the 'one' (for me the 'one' is the person I can finally have a SECOND date with! Oh the expectations and high dreams I set for myself!). We have talked a few times and have really gotten on well. His laugh is adorable and I can't wait to hear it in real life. I can already tell I want nothing more than to see him smile (which is a good sign for me as I will try my very best to be the dorkeek that I am).

So the main reason for this post is to proclaim  the major change I have made in my life. That is I will stop putting work as the top focus in my life, and start making room for other things. I finally have rewired my brain to realise that work isn't the be all and end all of my existence.

Time for major changes to occur.



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