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I don't trust you anymore

Hi All,

It's come to that time again in my house. Re-modelling and re-decorating. After the fiasco that happened with the previous bathroom, any work now needs to be a whole lot better to keep the peace in the house. It was time for bathroom number 2. This is the main bathroom downstairs, and needs to be perfect as more people will see it. Thankfully me and my sister convinced my dad to get professionals from a well known company to do the work for us. It was a damn sight more expensive, but the saying is true, you get what you pay for. We still had some minor issues to work out, namely the boiler being within the bathroom, and this caused my mum to have another meltdown on us, but thankfully the 2 week timescale was only extended by 4 days. The finished result looks great, although there are some very minor finishing touches to do which will be done later this week.

The fun only just begun. When re-decorating a house it is easy to want to update other parts to bring new life into the spaces. This is exactly what my mum did. She then started telling us she wanted the hallway re-painted and the woodwork to be painted in white gloss. We actually all agreed whilst the work on bathroom 2 was happening that this would be the next area to focus on. But we have learned many lessons over the last two projects. The biggest of all is that no matter who we choose, my mom will always find a way to complain to my dad. But the lightbulb went off in our heads. what is mum chose the builders herself? Would she still complain to my dad? Well we decided that this needs to be researched.

My mum found a painter who did the local mosque and spoke highly of his work. She arranged for him to come round and after showing him the work that needed to be done he said that it would only take 2 days. This immediately sent alarm bells ringing in my head. Two days? Two days to strip doors, the bannister, skim walls, prime the wood, paint an undercoat and paint everything fresh? All while filling in cracks and ensuring a smooth finish? I didn't think it was at all possible. We are clever enough to know how long projects should take as my dad is very handy, and has taught us well. When I expressed these concerns with my dad, he was also shocked and said they won't do a good finish, but because he was sick of my mums attitude with previous projects, he simply stated that if anything goes wrong she only has herself and the builders to blame.

Now I was on this same way of thinking, but also want to keep the peace as much as possible. I gallantly chose a weekend where my mum and dad were away for the painters to come. Its so much easier when my mum isn't around to moan. They came and immediately got to painting. They didn't even prepare the walls, or mask off any areas to stop paint going on areas that were not needed. They were basically rushing through the job, and spoke very little English, so communication was hard. The main guy, who my mum had spoken highly of, didn't even do any of the work. He gave them a very brief introduction and then left. This immediately made me lose faith in him. At the end of the two days they were nowhere near completing the work. We agreed on another day, which is this weekend. After they left an inspection on the work shows how poorly they have done it. There is pain everywhere, including the new bathroom floor! I was so angry, and so was my mother. She initially tried to pass the blame to us, but we knew what she was up to and immediately corrected her.

What this experience so far has taught me is that you really need proper professionals to do work, and to always make sure the main guy is around to lead a team properly. They will have to fix the issue they have created. But thankfully we can all sleep a little easier as mum can't shout at us for the work. That really is the icing on the crumbling cake.



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