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I've been back for a month

Hi all,

It's been quite a month for me, by which I mean it has been officially one month in our new home! It's been amazing, and it's slowly filling up with furniture, and more and more love each day. We have learned more about each other, as well as learned how easy it has been to live together. Honestly, it has been the best month of my life, and I'm excited to have more amazing months in the future. We even found time for a quick, and well needed, break to New York.

It has also been a month of learning. I learned that for some reason, even when in transit to Canada (a one hour connection), that you need an ETA!? That was a shock, especially as we had to fill out documents at the airport! (We were lucky to get the flight). I have learned that I am always cool under pressure (for at least give off the vibe that I am calm even when I'm worrying inside - flashback to the moment at the airport where we were told about the ETA). I have learned that  trying to figure out what to cook can sometimes be a struggle; that finding a new work-home-parents home balance is trickier than I thought; that curtains are more expensive than I had thought of (£2000 for a set of made to measure curtains is ridiculous! There has to be some sort of agreement with all the retailers about how much they can charge and think they are being 'good value'); that being closer to work has made my journey times a lot more manageable and I am thankful for it; and that being with bae is the most amazing thing ever. I like that even after all this time I am finding out new things about him, and still being amazed. I like that he is showing a different side, and that I finally can just relax with him (even though I wish we had more time as our schedules rarely meet up with days off).

It has also been a time for reflection for me. During this past month by best friend got married. It was a joyous occasion and filled with so many friends and family. It honestly brought a tear to my eye seeing how many people came to show her and her groom (also a friend) love and support. It made me think of my wedding one day, and how it would most likely be filled with just friends (as we all know my family are unlikely to attend once they find out about me). It still brings a tear to my eye now as I type it. Is it fair? No. Is it what I expect? Yes. I can endure that. However, it made me think about how often I connect with friends. I used to not be able to as the parents would complain of me being away all the time, but now that I have moved out I will have more time to connect. So that is what I will do. I want to rebuild the connections again. See people and have fun with friends again, before they get too caught up with life and find less and less time to meet up. I want to have a lot of friends at my wedding, who will be my family. Who will show me the same love my best friend got on her wedding.

So my vow to myself in the future is to connect more. Message my friends more. Meet with them more, and all there while introduce more of them to bae (as he is amazing and they will love to meet him - I just know it). My time is now, and I should seize the opportunity living out is giving me. It will be hard, as we all live very busy lives, but I will make more of an. effort, and I hope that they will too.

It's time to plant a new family tree.



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